"Innovators always seek to revitalize, extend and reconstruct the status quo in their given fields, wherever it is needed...they are forever guided by the great and eternal constantthe creative urge. Let us cherish it and give all praise to God."
My friend Barry Mayo, former radio industry mogul and innovator, now an artistic photographer and award-winning documentarian once told me, there are no coincidences in the impactful moments which alter our trajectories. He calls these times in our lives in which we rise with a divine coming together of experiences, Godincidences. This word often got my attention as we discussed the meaning of life over the years. In our most recent conversations, Barry asked me, "What is Nirvana to you?" Meditating on this question changed my life because his question had no room for excuses. I now devote most of my time to writing with a purpose. Barry Mayo also taught me by example the value of practicing meditation with deep conviction. I believe prayer is when we speak to God, and in our meditations, God speaks to us. Barry's example of living a life with purpose is quite exhilarating to behold.
I first encountered Barry Mayo in 2010, while sitting in Manhattan's Penn Station ACELA lounge. I was waiting for my train to arrive while holding a book which focused on saxophonist John Coltrane. "One thought can produce millions of vibrations," John Coltrane once stated. I am drawn to his belief in the vibrations that bring together people who help us rise so we can continue to be a force for good.
While I left that very morning, a feeling came to me to bring a book on my journey when I was leaving my home in Long Beach, New York on the Atlantic Ocean. This is where I was living before Hurricane Sandy shook up the precious barrier island. I literally reversed my steps just as I was about to exit the house. A thought infiltrated my consciousness which had suddenly come over me to take the book. I walked back into my living room and gravitated to my bookcase. Which book? I pondered standing in front of my collection of favorite books then I reached out and my hand landed on Coltrane
by Dr. Cuthbert Ormond Simpkins.
I remember it was a cold night in November, and I was happy for my excursion to Vermont after a long week teaching in Queens to escape for a few days of respite. I felt someone's energy looking in my direction as I held this book with the cover facing away from me, as if people could notice I had the spirit of John Coltrane accompanying me. Barry Mayo told me after we became friends that it was indeed the book he noticed in my hand while we both waited in the ACELA Amtrak waiting room that made him sit next to me on the train ride up north.
Once on the train, tired and introverted, I did not communicate with the man sitting next to me beyond an initial smile. In fact, I knew my journey was long so I threw my coat over me, and tried to rest. I could hear Barry speaking on his phone about the fascinating industry he was leading at the time. It turns out he was the President of Radio One, a major media company. I had heard bits and pieces of some kind of business discussion that seemed important from his tone. I also remember noticing his voice was soothing and rich. I guess I get credit for noticing the distinguished voice of a professional in radio. By the time Barry was ready to exit the train, I was snacking on some food. He stood up to depart for his upstate New York home. Suddenly he turned back looking at me and asked a question. "You into John Coltrane?" as he pointed to my book which was now resting on top of my luggage in front of me. "I teach elementary school children about the life, music, and message of John Coltrane. Check out my work on kidsforcoltrane.com
," I responded with an appreciation for his interest in John Coltrane.
That was over nine years ago. Barry Mayo became one of my Coltranian mentors and a dear friend, who helped guide me and encouraged me as I grew my Kids for Coltrane project which is now all part of my social justice work. Over the years I shared with Barry that my Kids for Coltrane project focuses on jazz to teach children about American history, equality, character education, and the arts. "John Coltrane is a great artistic genius in America who is an example of love and beauty. He inspires us to muster the courage to be the best of who we can be," I expressed to him. Barry appreciated hearing about my passionate calling as he too loved jazz. Barry has made a name for himself mixing different genres of music on the radio, from hip hop, rhythm and blues, slow jams, and disco; with an understanding that jazz is America's classical music. He was heavily involved in trying to establish a Jazz Museum in Chicago and he is close friends with many musicians including Orbert Davis
who is the Artistic Director of the Chicago Jazz Philharmonic.
Soon after our meeting on the train, I discovered that Barry Mayo had made a decision to leave his distinguished career in radio to pursue his other passions. I pondered what kind of man would achieve such heights so young, and let it go to follow another passion reframing his life. I discovered he is an extraordinary man, a seeker and chaser of light who also sees the influence of shadows.
Barry Mayo grew up in the South Bronx during the 1960s and in the third grade was the first African American student to integrate his elementary school. The year was 1960 and busing had started, the world was changing. It was during this experience that Barry learned how negative words from a teacher could impact the mind forever. His white teacher reprimanded him because he touched the tape on the student art that was hanging on the wall. "Remember Barry, you are only a visitor here." Harsh and ignorant racist words from a school teacher taught him a lesson that no child should ever have to learn. "I can't remember the name of any other teacher in that school, but I remember her name. She was essentially saying to me you are not part of us," he told me.
Battling racism would be part of his life story and he does it with knowledge, clarity, and determination from his confident core beliefs. Barry states that race is the single biggest issue in this country now. Living in the South Bronx and later in Harlem, for the most part, he commuted to white schools. Mayo had one foot in both worlds and wrestled with his own identity. He attended Brooklyn Technical High School in which he excelled as a top student commuting from his home in Harlem. Through these experiences, he developed great friendships with people from different races, but never really felt comfortable in his own skin until he was in his 40's. These feelings would be the genesis of his interest in race and specifically in how people who were mixed-race identified. Although he is African American, he related to trying to navigate both the black and white worlds.
College and Career Path
Before entering college, Barry Mayo learned some important business skills working for Holiday Magic Cosmetics in sales. He was motivated and worked very hard. Selling the cosmetics brought him to Chicago
, a city he has come to deeply love. During this time, he got turned onto the work of Napoleon Hill author of Think and Grow Rich
who wrote, "Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve." The selling gig dissipated, but the lessons which he learned at that time stayed with him.
Barry left for Washington DC where he attended Howard University. His radio career would ignite as a student. Barry's journey in radio is legendary. He became Program Director of Howard University's college station. He was an integral part of creating and building the station which was broadcast in the residence halls. Barry took this role very seriously along with his full schedule of classes while working the night shift at Union Train Station as a train car cleaner to pay for his education. While still in his junior year, he was offered a position in middle-level management at a radio station in Little Rock
, Arkansas. Barry would make a decision that year to leave school and dive deeper into the world of radio. With only 20 credits left to receive his degree, it was an emotional decision, as it is not in his nature to leave things undone. Years later, he would finish that degree and officially graduate from Howard University. A feeling that still makes him well up in tears as it would serve as an example to his children. Barry came to understand he primarily had to graduate for himself and his parents.
Another fateful opportunity came to him while finishing up his degree requirements which he was able to do in Chicago at Columbia College. Having risen in the radio industry and now working in his adopted beloved Chicago running a radio station, he also took the opportunity to teach a course in which the college gave him credit along with taking five more classes to finish his degree. One of the classes he took brought him deep into a love for photography which would be a window into his future. Barry Mayo's radio career spanned thirty-five years and it included being President of Radio One, President of Broadcasting Partners Incorporated from 1988 through 2015, overseeing nine radio properties, being Program Director for major stations throughout America, and General Manager of Kiss FM, and VP/Market Manager of Emmis NY at Emmis Communication. When first at Kiss and a Program Director, Barry would make radio history when he included Hip hop in the lineup and also transformed the station to a Black Top 40 station. Hip hop was still underground at that time, but through airing the music its commercial value would soon shine brightly.
After leaving New York and Kiss FM, Barry and Lee Simonson, his dear friend and radio executive, became close business partners. I recently had the pleasure of meeting Lee, and it was clear to me that the two men are more like brothers than friends. Together they had bought and sold radio stations, eventually leaving the world of radio ownership behind when they decided to sell their then public company which was doing extremely well financially. Barry Mayo walked the line as a gifted man with an artistic side and an entrepreneurial side. As his journey matured the next phase of his life appeared and the artistic passionate side of him brought him into the immersion of the world of photography.
Photography and Film
Barry Mayo's next chapter in life would open his heart and mind to a flourishing spiritual life serving humanity through his outstanding work in photography and film. Barry left the world of radio permanently and moved to his home in Upstate, New York full time. His home sits on ten acres of beautiful wooded land in the Hudson Valley of New York. "I feel closest to God when I am in nature," Barry told me, "That is why I separated myself and live in the woods. There is a constant journey of enlightenment... I have been living here for ten years. I am not the same person or photographer since I came here."
Barry Mayo is a light chaser. He has evolved into a great professional photographer capturing images of life in the decisive moment. One of his influences is the legendary street photographer Henri Cartier Bresson whose work informed and inspired Barry's artful life. Barry recommended Bresson's excellent book The Decisive Moment
to me. The beautiful book filled with magnificent images of life helped me understand this genre of photography, and is part of the world that now fuels Barry's creative process. "The decisive moment speaks about capturing that split second, and it tells a story...it communicates in a way most people can understand... Capturing these moments are totally instinctual, and you almost can't think," he shared with me. Barry takes pictures of everyday things from his unique artistic lens. You can view some of Barry's outstanding photography on his site at barrymayophotographs.com
and his Instagram page. His beautiful and compelling photography helps frame the meaning of life through which he shares his heart and soul.
"I shoot for myself. It is all about light from a physics standpoint...In the digital world, it is light hitting a sensor in bits and bites....I am chasing light physically, spiritually and metaphorically. The way it hits me is about growth," Barry explained. "As a photographer, I get satisfaction for myself, but I can share this growth with others on my website and on Instagram. I am a seeker... My eyes always open to other ways to look at the light....On a spiritual level, my work which has now morphed into film, is about seeking and sharing more light in terms of bringing the races together."
Questions about race issues became part of his reframed life in his maiden voyage creating the award-winning documentary short, Maya Osborne: Confessions of a Quadroon
. Barry has an interest in examining the lives of the offspring of people who were in interracial unions. He was raised at a time when there were still laws on the books in the United States which made it illegal for a black person and white person to be married.
Giving a platform to people who are mixed race, and are both black and white is important to Barry. In his award-winning documentary, it is stunning when we discover that Maya Osborne's white father is unaware his twenty-year-old daughter does not identify as white. The artist is a gifted spoken word poet with a black mother and white father. I highly recommend that you get a hold of this documentary. Maya Osborne: Confessions of a Quadroon
originally opened at Heidi Durrow's Remix/Mix Conference in 2015 and has shown in 11 film festivals all over the country, winning two awards. In his desire to seek light, Barry wants to help broaden our horizons and shrink the spaces between people. In the language of John Coltrane, he is truly a force for good.
As I have come to know Barry through our deep conversations, it is clear to me that he is a family man and a loyal friend to those who are blessed to be in his vortex. His daily life includes meditation and a close connection to family. Recently becoming a grandfather has brought him boundless joy. His son Alex is father to baby Marley and watching him become a father is profoundly wonderful to him. Barry is also the proud father of Barry A. Mayo II, and Alana Aisha Mayo his only daughter. Alana has distinguished herself in the film industry and focused on socially impactful work. She is the President of Production and Development for actor Michael B. Jordan's Outlier Society Productions, and engaged to Grammy Award-winning writer and acclaimed actress Lena Waithe.
Divorced and now single Barry has maintained close family ties to the mother of his children. "Divorce does not have to be ugly," he once told me. This seemed remarkable to me, because it is a challenge in my life being divorced to keep peace and unity. Barry is unique and devoted to what really matters to him which is love, peace, and committed life. He often celebrates the holidays with his three children, the mother of his children, and her husband proving love can win over negative forces.
This devotion to family came from his parents' example of togetherness. His loving father, a police officer passed years ago, but he was blessed to have his mother Annie B. Mayo until her recent passing at the age of 93. Her loss was crushing to him, and yet he knows her love is infused in every cell of his being. When he speaks of her or shows photos of her beaming smile, it is evident she was a gem. Barry is also a devoted brother to his precious sister Iris Basham whom he adores. Their younger sister died at the tender age 18.
"Race is the biggest issue in this country now," Barry said, "It is going in the worst possible place at this time." The most influential black leader impacting him is Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. As he has grown, he does see the importance in understanding the work of leaders like Malcom X, Louis Farrakhan, and the Black Panthers. Mayo feels Louis Farrakhan could have been a national leader for black people, but some of the issues he focuses on are too controversial.
The March on Washington had a dramatic impact on Barry as a boy with Dr. King sharing his we shall overcome message. The first Million Man March, later on, was one of the most powerful experiences of his life. "Having gone through the discomfort and confusion about my blackness, having had one foot in the black world and white world growing up, being at the Million Man March and in the presence of that kind of power and love was simply amazing. When I got back to Chicago, I saw the difference in attitude with the brothers on the street, and that was an outgrowth of the Million Man March."
The man I have come to know is a deeply spiritual person. Barry does not follow an organized religion, but he does have a commitment to his deep spiritual path. He has a strong belief in God. Around the time I met Barry, he started his participation in Inventure Outward Bound Trips with world-renowned Life Coach Richard Leider who leads spiritual walking trips in East Africa. Barry has traveled extensively in his life, but his two trips to Tanzania have had a deep and transformative impact on his life. There he experienced the culture of hunter-gatherers who shared their knowledge with him. The photo accompanying this article shows Mayo with children in Tanzania who are amazed at seeing their own images on his camera. Richard Leider has stated that the two most important days in your life are the day you are born and the day you learn why you were born.
There is no doubt that Barry Mayo has an appreciation for the gift of life and the value of knowing and living your purpose. Having a reason to get up every morning can bring fulfillment to the human heart. The miracle in all of this, once you become aware of your gifts and nurture them, the joy is in sharing and giving your gifts away to have others bask in them as well.
I asked Barry if he was optimistic about the world for his grandchild. He said, "The joy of grandparenting is everything you have heard, how cool and how hip it is to be a grandparent is true. For Marley for the future, I have hope and trepidation...The family will do our best to protect and teach Marley how to navigate this very confusing and scary world... I want to believe in my heart of hearts he will be okay, but I can't tell you that I know what the world is going to look like when he is eight, fifteen or twenty-five because I just don't know." Barry Mayo is an example of a man living in the rapture of the human experience. I feel confident baby Marley will be empowered through his grandfather's lens on life.